– Hey, everyone! It is Tuesday and that
means that I am on Tumbler, and so that’s answer your
questions if you used the hashtag KatiFAQ or if
at the beginning of your message you’re like, “Hey,
dude, here’s my question” then I got it and I answerin’ it. So I have 6 questions and
at the end, like always, stay tuned, I have my
journal topic of the day. And actually this one’s
kind of exciting and it will kind of go through our
whole week so, and I hope that you will share
your photos on Twitter. If you’re not following me
on Twitter, follow me at @KatiMorton. Okay, without further
adue, question number 1. And I’m lookin’ over here,
as always, ’cause I keep it on my laptop so I don’t
get confused or forget what the questions are. I have just gone back to
school after my GCSE’s and I did really well on them. I’m now starting my A levels
but I can’t cope any longer without getting help. This person has an eating
disorder or self-harm. I didn’t actually write
that in there because I’m bad like that. I worry that they won’t take
me seriously because I have been doing so well and I don’t
appear to have any symptoms. Oh, it was eating disorder,
now I’m remembering. How can I get them to take me seriously? To be honest, any therapist,
or any treatment center isn’t gonna worry about what
kind of grades or if you’ve been functioning. I have a lot of patients
who were high-functioning, like able to go to school,
able to go to work, but they’re exhausted, their
body is showing signs of wear. It’s really stressful, they’re
having anxiety attacks, they’re struggling with
depression, and suicide thoughts, suicidal thoughts, and stuff like that. So they’ll be more worried about that. I wouldn’t worry at all
about getting them to take you seriously. I would just answer honestly
on all the assessments they give you, and answer their
questions as honesty as you can, and you’ll get the help
that you need and deserve. Now I know sometimes it can
be trickier in the UK and in Europe, but if any of
you have gotten treatment, could you leave your comments
below letting us know what they ask and if there
are any specific things that she needs to know in
order to get them to take her seriously and to get
the help that she deserves? But I would get on the lists,
I know there’s a lot of waiting lists. I would sign up for therapy,
CBT Group, whatever you can get into, and just be
honest, and you’ll get the help. I would, I take my clients seriously. It doesn’t matter how well
they’re doing in school or anything like that, okay? Question number 2. Is it normal to all of a
sudden break down and cry? I sometimes just feel
really sad all of a sudden. Is this part of anxiety or depression? I mean normal, I don’t really
like using the term normal, because anybody who’s, I
guess healthy, and venting regularly, won’t have this,
so to that end, I guess it’s not normal, but a lot of us
go through this, and we’ll have periods of time where
someone will upset us during our day or something bad will
happen, and we’ll just cry because we’re overwhelmed. Like I talk about, and I’ve
talked about on other videos, about each day we get a
certain number of poker chips, so let’s say I wake up
and I have 10 poker chips. And this person cuts me
off, and I almost hit them. I toss out a poker chip because
I had to use a lot of my stress tolerance and coping
skills to vent and not yell, and not go crazy, and everyday
things are happening, right? And some days, if we aren’t
really taking care of ourselves and we have depression, we have
anxiety, we wake up without any poker chips, and so one
thing happens and we’re like, bah, we can’t hold it together,
and so I kind of call like the run off, or the, where
it’s run over, like we’re so full of stuff that anything,
even things we don’t even know are happening, we’ll
just cry all of a sudden. We’ll feel really sad and
we’ll have these overwhelming waves of emotion, and I
would encourage you, I guess my advice for this would
be to find ways to vent. Whether its screaming in your
car, screaming into a pillow, punching a punching bag, kicking a ball, maybe crying and journaling every night, taking time for yourself, venting to a friend, seeing a therapist. All of those things can help us kind of top, get those emotions out so that we don’t overflow,
and we don’t have that, okay? Question number 3. How do I keep from feeling
embarrassed or silly for getting help when my eating disorder/
self-harm isn’t as bad as it was before? My therapist wants me to see
a dietician and do some extra things, but everything has
calmed down since school. It’s honestly some of that
positive self-talk that we have to do. Like talking back to the voice
because as soon as we get in recovery, a lot of times
that negative self-talk will start again. It’ll just be in a different voice. It’ll say things like, “You’re not sick enough
to keep doing this, ‘You’re already over this, ‘You should be recovered, ‘What’s wrong with you, ‘Why are you taking so long,” and blah blah blah blah blah. But we have to talk back to
it and the easiest thing with this scenario that I would do is say, “Well if my therapist still
thinks that I need more help, ‘I must, and I must not be
able to see it, so I’m gonna ‘trust my treatment team, and I’m gonna do ‘what she’s asking.” But if the voice keeps
going on and on, do the, a negative and positive, I’m
drawing lines like I’m on a piece of paper like this
and on this side we would put like negative things that it says like, “You’re so ridiculous and
stupid for thinking you need ‘more help.” And then over here we think,
we say, we talk back to it, right? So we’ll say, “No I’m not.
I’m getting the help that my ‘therapist says I need.” And then if it keeps going,
we keep talking back. And that will turn it around. And I know it’s hard and we
won’t believe it all at first. All the positive things, we
won’t believe them right away, but you will start to and
it’ll start to change that, and so that doesn’t happen anymore. But I’m proud of you for
getting help, and keep doing what your therapist and
everybody is saying, and it’ll get better one
step at a time, right? Number 4. If you want to re-admit yourself
into in-patient treatment but your parents won’t let
you, what can you do about it? Can my parents prevent me
from getting treatment? Technically, no. It’s actually, it depends on
your age a lot of the time, but if you’re over 12 years
old, and I’m speaking in the States, obviously,
because those are the laws and the rules that I know the best. If you’re over 12, you have
the right to admit yourself with or without parental consent. Some treatment centers,
however, will not take you if your parents don’t consent. The ones that I worked at, one
would allow you to if you had fair reason, like, “I feel like
I need more help, and I have ‘my insurance card and
I wanna get treatment. ‘They just don’t believe
that I’m sick, or whatever.” We’d take clients like that. The other one, one of the other
one’s I worked at wouldn’t, and we had to have parental consent. That was at a hospital. Hospitals tend to be a little
bit more rigid than regular treatment centers because a
lot of those are private and they can have their own kind
of rules and things like that. But they can’t technically
stop you from getting help, although it’s a lot easier if
they will just sign off on it. But I would just keep pushing forward. I would make some appointments
for intakes, and I would get the ball rolling, and
then I would ask them and say, “I really need help, and that’s
why I’m doing all of this. ‘Can you please” Like whichever parent you
think you’re closest to and understands the most, “Can
you please just come with me ‘and just sign the consent
form because I don’t want this ‘to get any worse.” And I really can’t see a parent
saying “No” at that point. So keep me posted and
I’m really proud of you for reaching out. Number 5. Can a therapist sometimes see
through their clients’ lies? I sometimes get scared and
don’t wanna share the whole truth with mine, and I feel
like I just need someone to call me on my B.S. It depends on the therapist. I do. ‘Cause usually you’re tells,
well a tell, for any of you who play poker, which I
actually don’t even play poker. I don’t know why I’m using that term. But a tell is what you can
see on someone’s face or in their body language. It tells you that they’re
lying, which in poker it’s like if they’re bluffing
they shift in their seat or they figit. Usually that’s what gives my clients away. They shift in their seat,
the lack of eye contact, the figiting, and I’ll call them on it. So I would actually bring
this up with your therapist. If you think you can do that. I know you’re saying it’s
hard, and sometimes you feel like you don’t wanna tell the whole truth. If you could just say to her,
“Hey sometimes I get nervous ‘and I don’t wanna tell the whole truth. ‘Could you just do your
best to call me on it ‘when you think I’m lying?” I don’t know if you’d be
able to do that, but honestly if she’s not able to tell and
you’re not feeling comfortable with her, the second option
to me is maybe we should find you someone else you
feel more comfortable with and you don’t mind sharing the
whole truth, and you feel like she will call you out. ‘Cause there’s different
types of therapists. I think of myself, honestly,
as kind of a tough love therapist, where I’m soft,
but I’m not gonna let you lie to me all day, everyday, so
I’m gonna call you out, and I’m gonna say, “Hey is there
some reason that you’re ‘not telling me?” You know, stuff like that,
and some therapists may not be tough love like that. So maybe we need to
find you someone who is. So that’s just my thoughts on that. And the last question, question number 6. And I think I’m getting
through these more quickly. Look at me go. How seriously does taking
your own life have to be before you seek out help for it? Like the quick thought of
giving up doesn’t count, right? Quick answer, no. Just, a lot of people, when
we’re depressed or we’re struggling, we’ll have
those quick thoughts. We’re like, “Uh, I just
can’t take my life anymore. ‘I just wish it was over.” Right? And we’ll have those kinds of thoughts. When I think you need to
start seeking help is when you’re starting to put together
a plan or you’re starting to think about how you would do it. If you start thinking about
the specifics so much so that you maybe writing things down
or planning in your brain, please please please call the
hotline, call a therapist, take yourself to the
Emergency Room, anything to get yourself some help. And please watch my
suicide prevention videos. I have a bunch of different
ones, from creating a prevention plan, to I believe just like the statistics and what suicide is,
it’s like suicide 101. I have a bunch of different videos on it. A lot about prevention and
creating a plan, so please check those out, and please create a plan. Even if you have those fleeting thoughts. ‘Cause we’d rather be prepared
than not prepared, right? Okay. Drum roll. Today’s journal topic is,
and I just thought this was something we could all benefit
from, and it’s something that I will participate in as well. Each day this week, let’s
write down 3 things that we’re grateful for. These can be small things. Like, I’m grateful that I
found a parking spot right up front at the grocery store. Or my friend was so
nice and they called me and invited me out to go to a movie. Or whatever. Any kind of thing. I got up and I wasn’t tired. Or whatever it is. I want you to write down 3 a day. Three. And then I want you to do
all the way until Sunday. And then let’s do something artistic. So whether we write them
up on just a post-it note, you know, if that works for you. If you wanna put it together
and put it in your recovery journal, I think you should do that. Anyway that we can post it,
put it up, and make sure that we see it, or it’s
something we can go through and see everyday, so we
can be reminded of all the wonderful things that are
happening in our life. Because some days will be shitty. Some days we’ll feel really down. But that doesn’t mean
that it’s all lost, right? We have a lot of great
things going on for us. I have a roof over my head. I have clothes on my back. I have all of you wonderful people. We all have one another, right? That’s a pretty good start. I have a car that works. Those are great things to be grateful for. So let’s remind ourselves
each day this week, and keep working towards a healthy
mind and a healthy body. I will see you all tomorrow,
and tomorrow is Wednesday. I’ll be on the website,
and on YouTube, so ask your questions, use the hashtag. I love you. I’ll see you then, bye.